I think I’m going to start a new (short) group of postings called the “Bad Boss Chronicles” (or “BBC” if you want…). What is this Bad Boss Chronicles, you may be asking.
Have you ever been in a situation where your boss is just an asshole? Or psycho? Paranoid? Doesn’t trust in anyone but himself/herself? Causes your days to be long and miserable at work, for whatever reasons possible?
You’re not alone.
Surprisingly, bad bosses exist. And they turn up a lot more frequently than you might expect. What do you do when you find yourself in a situation where you’re working with a bad boss? Unfortunately, there’s no clear cut answer to fix this. You can’t just get up one day, decide to do x, y, and z and suddenly your boss turns into an AWESOME SUPER DUPER WONDERFUL boss. Instead, I believe that there are a series of steps that you can take. There’s decisions that you have to make. Pros and cons to weigh. Stuff like that.
There’s also making sure you have a healthy venue to let out your frustration, if it ever occurs. This will be mine.
Bad Boss Chronicles Incident 100
(let’s just start at 100, since there’s probably 100 things my bad boss has already done…)
When you find out from other coworkers that your bad boss has been making comments about people in your personal life (my fiancé in this situation) to insinuate that you are unable to have independence from coworkers at work.
You might be thinking, “WTF does that mean?” I’ve recently discovered that my particular bad boss has been making off-handed comments to coworkers while I’m not around about my fiancé and his friendship with one of my coworkers in a different department. If you didn’t know, auditor independence is kind of a big deal, so any sort of insinuation that someone doesn’t have independence can mean a plethora of things. However, that’s neither here nor there. This isn’t the first time I’ve heard that Bad Boss has been commenting that he’s worried about my independence or my ability to audit properly. However, this IS the first time I’ve heard of someone I work with making comments of people that exist solely in my PERSONAL life that they haven’t even met. Or really heard much about, to be frank.
After getting my initial bit of angry rage, I made it fade and then decided to let it go. At the end of the day, do I think it’s inappropriate for this person to be running around and trying to stir the gossip pot, yeah. Definitely. But what worth is it to become angry? Nothing much, unless this happens more frequently and it starts impacting my work.
Good advice from a friend (while speculating what’s up with Bad Boss) – don’t spend time being angry. At the end of the day, you can just pity. And in my book, pity is better to have than anger.